I Have Feelings About This
These blog posts are easy for me to write. I have a system. As I go through my days, I’m often inspired, and it happens at random times. Creativity never wants a schedule. My solution is to record brain sparks into my phone or notebook. By making regular deposits into my idea bank, I can later look at my scribbles and short phrases to reignite the spark. Then I write.
Another thing that makes crafting these monthly one or two pages easy is my affection for you. I love you. I really do. You, my EFT audience - struggling in the trenches with me to do this beautiful work - I feel like I know you. Yes, there are plenty of people reading this that I’ve never met in person, or maybe have never even gotten an email from. I still feel like there’s something that brings us together.
You read these posts because we’re both drawn to the message of EFT. As I journey to embody and share what it means to love and be loved - I think you do too.
The message, craft and experience of using EFT to help others is one I’ll never get tired of. I think I can write about it forever. Thanks for continuing to read!
But, a whole book. Woah. That’s a different feat entirely. And, I did it! Somehow writing a book isn’t just what I’m doing now multiplied by 62 (author math isn’t exact, but I’m proving a point here). By the way, I use parenthesis far too often (I found that out during the editing process). Haha. See what I did there? (See what I did?)
Have you ever had a tried and true recipe you love and decided to make it for a whole dinner party? Have you ever tried doubling or tripling a recipe and been severely disappointed?
A blog post is not a book. And a dozen favorite cookies do not equal a whole shelf in a bakery.
The process of writing my book was me practicing what I preach again and again. In order to do something new and vulnerable, slower is faster. Anything good happens at the pace of love. This disciplined snail movement from the first writing retreat to the last lap in my creative marathon made me cry. Good and bad tears, mind you. If you’ve ever thought about writing a book, the end result is totally worth the patience it takes to actually slow down to do it.
The above picture includes family, dear friends and colleagues. These are people who got my book right away and then read it right away (well, except my 9 year old - but isn’t he cute?!). They texted, emailed and said “Kelly, I love it.” One person sent me a selfie, holding the book. That made me want all the selfies! And, there you go - a collage that I’ll cherish forever.
I Have Feelings About This is essentially EFT as it applies to leadership, business and the overachievers' plight: living a balanced, meaningful life without burning out.
Actually, how about I just share the back cover:
“Are you a passionate leader who has tried hustling, but you’ve come to realize it’s not sustainable? Have you already read books on how to “work smarter, not harder?”
If you’re an overachiever and you’re working hard to not work so hard - you’ve come to the right place. No one has to tell you that mental health and self-awareness are necessary for the work/life balance you’re aiming for.
But, if you’re looking for tools, a formula or a checklist of actionable items to give you that balance, this is NOT the book for you.
There are no tools, checklists or formulas here. If you want a healthy professional life with your heart at the center, it has to come from the inside out. That nagging feeling that’s telling you there’s a better way to work and live? Listen to it.
For close to 20 years, Kelly Bourque, highly sought after couples therapist, has been saving marriages. In order to scale her business into the thriving group practice it is (and not burn out in the process), she discovered the same principles from the therapy room work in leadership, management, running a small business, and self-employment.
Kelly is the real deal. Every chapter in this book, the practical and the personal - they are the fruit of her own deep dive inside herself. She’s a therapist who’s been to therapy. Her personal growth found its way into her professional life, and she’s excited to share what she’s learned.”
If anything in it resonates with you, please write a review! You can be a part of spreading the message of the book (and make my day).