Here's where we as EFT therapists can get stuck: when everything about the content of a session screams attachment! We want to set up conversations that help communicate attachment longings and fears - bonding conversations. It's so tempting to stay with the content when a client is "saying the right thing."

As you navigate a couple's dance, trying to understand exactly what they experience - the moves they make and why they make them, they can't help but do the same dance right there in front of you!

On the first frame, I got a strike. I did pretty well for a while, and then I got too in my head and started getting gutter balls. I just can't.