A Love Letter to Pursuers
This one is harder to write. Why? Because I’m a pursuer. I see you and I get you - a little too much sometimes.
A Love Letter to Withdrawers
You’re like a deer in the woods. When you come out, everyone is nervous to make a wrong move - you’re so beautiful and we want you to stay.
Attachment Dilemma Brought to You by Spiderman
Feel it. Don’t ask for anything from your clients. Just be a mirror to their collective pain.
Betrayal Trauma: Bricks in a Shared Wall
Some say this is the #1 most challenging presentation in couples work. And, yet - if you work with couples, you can’t get away from working with betrayal trauma.
The Power of Professionalism
The debate of the nation was happening right in front of my eyes, only this time in the confines of my therapy couch, sparks flying between a couple.
Your First Love
It seems to me that people who transition to business coaching out of therapy are just burnt out by therapy. And they're telling you how you too can not be a therapist.
Relationship Window of Tolerance
How many times have you spent way too long with one partner, trying to get something a little less blamey, a little more primary and at least a tad vulnerable?
Content Trap: 3 Tips to Prevent It
Getting stuck in content is like trying to choose a paint color.
Learn to Look for the Positive
Somewhere along the way, EFTers got the message that in order to help couples engage with themselves and each other - they need to process negative emotions.
The Cadence of EFT
I was watching a tape of a supervisee of mine and the sound was very faint. I could barely make out the client or therapist words, but I could hear the cadence.
Move One is Your Anchor in Couples Therapy
What's "Move One" you ask? Well, it actually gets confusing. There's a Stage 1, Step 1 and Move 1.
How Do I Know if My Couple is Ready for Stage Two?
Intuition combined with structure equals EFT magic.
What’s Your Back-up Career?
"What?! I don't have a back-up career. I live and breathe therapy. It's who I am. You can't separate me from it."
Really?
“I Want to Add, Not Take Away".”
Kathryn Rheem (EFT Trainer) once said that withdrawer's (avoidant attachment strategy) have a higher mountain to climb.