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A Love Letter to Pursuers

This one is harder to write. Why? Because I’m a pursuer. I see you and I get you - a little too much sometimes.

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A Love Letter to Withdrawers

You’re like a deer in the woods. When you come out, everyone is nervous to make a wrong move - you’re so beautiful and we want you to stay.

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Say the Day

I have a friend that has the sweetest bedtime ritual with her kids.

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Betrayal Trauma: Bricks in a Shared Wall

Some say this is the #1 most challenging presentation in couples work. And, yet - if you work with couples, you can’t get away from working with betrayal trauma.

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The Power of Professionalism

The debate of the nation was happening right in front of my eyes, only this time in the confines of my therapy couch, sparks flying between a couple.

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Your First Love

It seems to me that people who transition to business coaching out of therapy are just burnt out by therapy. And they're telling you how you too can not be a therapist.

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Relationship Window of Tolerance

How many times have you spent way too long with one partner, trying to get something a little less blamey, a little more primary and at least a tad vulnerable?

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Learn to Look for the Positive

Somewhere along the way, EFTers got the message that in order to help couples engage with themselves and each other - they need to process negative emotions.

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The Cadence of EFT

I was watching a tape of a supervisee of mine and the sound was very faint. I could barely make out the client or therapist words, but I could hear the cadence.

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