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Action Tendency!

Are you forgetting to help clients link their action tendency to the attachment intent (and softer emotion)?

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Be Stubborn

I got stuck in my head on Monday. I was starting a 3-day intensive with a couple in crisis. I know from experience that day one is always the hardest.

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Reflect with Attachment

Reflections aren't just for validation - they're to seed attachment. It's a language your client forgot.

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Emotion FOCUSED Therapy

People learning EFT often make it their goal to get a primary emotion. If you make this your goal (especially in stage 1), you will be frustrated and your clients might start to placate you (give you a feelings word so you'll back off).

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The Blocks in Session

A lot of us want to "make it better" or push people to where we want them to be, instead of trusting the blocks and leaning into them.

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“YES, And…”

In Bossy Pants, Tina (I'll call her by her first name because she really feels like my friend) writes about the rules of improv. She makes the point that the rules of improv are also a great way to live.

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Follow Emotion

“Emotion is the messenger of love. It is the vehicle that carries signal from one brimming heart to another…”

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The Greatest Tool in the Therapy Room

In school we heard that we need to take ourself out of the therapy room. Don't touch your client, don't disclose anything and don't make it about you. Yes and no.

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EFT Burn Out

We genuinely care. We want to help others. We don't take seriously the toll this kind of work has on us.

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Secure Attachment with EFT

Wouldn't it be great if EFT could give you a hug? Just reassure you that you're ok just as you are? Maybe that's what we need to do for each other as we learn this model.

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Grow As We Go

I don't think you have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go

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Attunement 101

EFT therapists attune to themselves and their clients to respond and bring into harmony an emotional experience.

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Sloppy Enactments

Go ahead and send it across anyway. You'll get a block and maybe what they need more than anything is your response to it.

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