"What?! I don't have a back-up career. I live and breathe therapy. It's who I am. You can't separate me from it."

Really?

Kathryn Rheem (EFT Trainer) once said that withdrawer's (avoidant attachment strategy) have a higher mountain to climb.

Are you forgetting to help clients link their action tendency to the attachment intent (and softer emotion)?

I got stuck in my head on Monday. I was starting a 3-day intensive with a couple in crisis. I know from experience that day one is always the hardest.

The tango. This is your life line. It's the mini-map for every session.

Reflections aren't just for validation - they're to seed attachment. It's a language your client forgot.

People learning EFT often make it their goal to get a primary emotion. If you make this your goal (especially in stage 1), you will be frustrated and your clients might start to placate you (give you a feelings word so you'll back off).

A lot of us want to "make it better" or push people to where we want them to be, instead of trusting the blocks and leaning into them.

In Bossy Pants, Tina (I'll call her by her first name because she really feels like my friend) writes about the rules of improv. She makes the point that the rules of improv are also a great way to live.

“Emotion is the messenger of love. It is the vehicle that carries signal from one brimming heart to another…”

Why are we afraid to interrupt? (Everyone is, by the way)

Have you ever been a client? Have you ever sat in a waiting room?

In school we heard that we need to take ourself out of the therapy room. Don't touch your client, don't disclose anything and don't make it about you. Yes and no.

We genuinely care. We want to help others. We don't take seriously the toll this kind of work has on us.

Let me help you get some bang for your buck. If you're in EFT Supervision, or thinking about it - here are some tips to help you prepare:

Wouldn't it be great if EFT could give you a hug? Just reassure you that you're ok just as you are? Maybe that's what we need to do for each other as we learn this model.

What's really counter-intuitive is that we have to go to the present to mend the past.

I don't think you have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go

EFT therapists attune to themselves and their clients to respond and bring into harmony an emotional experience.

Go ahead and send it across anyway. You'll get a block and maybe what they need more than anything is your response to it.